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Friday, June 18, 2021

Lessons from the Trail

Hi Friends,

Just finished our first horse camp week. Whew! We did it! And the kids had a great time.  Here's a lesson from the trail . . .



I put my hands on my hips and looked out at the sea of grinning-kid faces sitting on the stacks of hay before me. Nearly thirty big, wide smiles met my gaze. I grinned back. A few van-loads of kids had come from the local low-income apartments to spend the afternoon riding, grooming, and experiencing horse-life for the first time. 

            “Who’s been on a horse before?” I asked.

            Three hands raised.

            My smile grew. It was going to be an interesting day.

            My daughters brought our horses from their pens as I reviewed basic safety tips. After the horses were saddled and ready, I pointed toward the narrow trail that winds through the trees around our property. “Okay, this is the important part. When it’s your turn, stay on the trail!”

            A boy raised his hand in the back of the group. “Why?”

            “If you don’t, guess what will get you?”

            “Wolves?”

            “Zombies?”

            “Monsters?”

            “Snakes?”

            I raised my eyebrows. “Worse! Poison oak!”

            “Oooooh.” Their eyes widened.  

            A tiny girl tugged on the edge of my shirt. “What’s poison oak?”

            I squatted beside her. “It’s a plant that looks like other plants, but it’s not like other plants at all. See all those nice red and green leaves growing on either side of the path?”

            She nodded.

            “That’s poison oak. It looks pretty, but if you rub against it you’ll get a nasty red, itchy rash. It’s awful.”

            She wrinkled up her nose. “I don’t want that.”

            “Nobody wants that. That’s why we stay on the path.”

            In the hours that followed, I led a string of horses around and around the trail. Two loops around, and kids would dismount to allow the next group to ride. Each time, we talked about poison oak. Each time, the kids kept their horses on the path. Until about two hours in.

            I heard a yelp behind me. “Help! Smokey’s going off the trail!” Sure enough, the gelding had spotted a patch of green and was heading right toward it. I ran back and grabbed his bridle, just as he reach a bush of shiny, poison leaves. I hauled him back to the safe path and walked beside him until he stayed the course.

            Two rounds later, I heard another yelp. This time, Valentine headed off the path, back toward the barn. After two and a half hours, she was tired. She wanted to be done. done. We brought her back to her spot and encouraged her to keep walking. 

            Later that night as I thought back to the adventures of the day, I was reminded that we can stay out of the poisonous places in life if we just let God lead us on the proper path, let him dictate the boundaries and where we ought to walk. We must stay on the path God has for us. Otherwise, poison thoughts, poison actions, poison problems will rub up against us to make ugly, itchy rashes on our relationships, our work, and our witness. 

            Sometimes there are green and red, shiny leaves tempting us off the path. They look pretty. We want to take a closer look. But they’re poison.

            Sometimes, like Smokey, we get hungry for things that are not for us and we veer off course. When that happens, it’s good to have God and wise friends to bring us back to the trail. And it’s good to allow them to walk beside us to help us stay the course.

            Sometimes, like Valentine, we just get tired and want to take a shortcut back to the barn. We want to be done. In those times, God says to us, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” (Galatians 6:9, NIV) 

            As I sat, soaking my feet that night, I thought about the joy we find when we trust God to lead us where we need to go. The path may be long, we may get tired and hungry, discouraged and disappointed. But God knows there’s poison off the path. He says to us, “...ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Jeremiah 6:16, NIV)

            Rest, not rashes. And maybe a good, epson salt soak for feet sore from the journey. That sounds good to me!

Thursday, June 3, 2021

No More June Gloom - Hope When Things are Wrong

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It's June! Which around here isn't summer at all. Here are some thoughts about June Gloom and living in hope and strength when life isn't what it should be . . .


 

 June Gloom?


            It was just wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Fog dripped from the trees and settled in puddles on the ground. I wrapped my scarf tighter around my neck and zipped my coat against the chill. 

Wrong.

And it wouldn’t burn off today. Maybe not even tomorrow.  

            So much for our warm summer camping trip.

            My daughter opened the door behind me and stepped outside. She pulled up the hood on her sweatshirt. “It’s so cold.”

            “Yes.”

            “It’s June.”

            “Yes.”

            “Summer.”

            “I know.

            “What are we going to do?”

I blinked. “What do you mean?”

She huffed. “I mean it’s just not right. We’re going to freeze.”

            “It is what it is. We’re going camping.”

She scowled, turned, and hurried back inside. 

            I sighed. 

She had a point. It wasn’t right. And it would be less right after we traveled up the mountain where it would be colder still. But I couldn’t control the weather. I couldn’t make the sun shine. Despite all my plans, all my hopes, all my careful preparations, I couldn’t even make the fog break for a single moment.     

            Sometimes life is like that. Sometimes things just don’t go as planned, or hoped, or expected. Sometimes it’s under fifty degrees in the middle of summer. Sometimes you’re a victim of June gloom.

            As I turned back to go inside and pack long sleeve shirts, wooly socks, and more scarves and sweatshirts, I thought about how life can go awry even when you’ve done everything you can to prepare. Sometimes, things just aren’t right and you have to pack to big blankets when the cold was the last thing you expected.

            Sometimes the sun doesn’t show up as planned.

            So then what do we do?

            For our family, we packed up and continued on with our camping plans. We bundled up, we traveled to the campground, we set up camp, and we made a big campfire. Scarves, coats, and all.

            That night, as we sat roasting marshmallows and sipping hot cocoa around a warm fire, with our coats zipped tight, I realized that a cold June day, and a colder June night, didn’t matter so much. We were together. We laughed. We joked. We read spooky stories and ate s’mores. 

            We lived. Even though everything wasn’t right. Even though life wasn’t all it was supposed to be.

            We found our place in the midst of a plan gone wrong.

            And I wondered, could we, could I, also find my place in a life that was not all it was supposed to be? Could I find peace, warmth, and joy when things just weren’t right in my world? Can I live life to the fullest even when it’s not what I planned, hoped, prayed? Even when damp fog blocks the light of the sun?

            Maybe I can. I will. 

In Ephesians 5:15-20 (NIV), Paul tells us to, “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity… always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

And in 2 Corinthians 9:8 (NIV), he says, “God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” 

In all things. Everything. In the fog, in the chill, in the cold in summer. 

When life doesn’t go as hoped. When plans go awry. When the day looks nothing like you expected and it just isn’t right.

            Because even in June gloom, we can choose laughter. We can choose friendship. We can chose to draw near to the fire of Christ’s love, no matter what not-right things happen around us. We can chose gratefulness.

            June gloom happens. But it doesn’t mean we have to center our lives around the wrongness. It doesn’t mean we have to forego the wonder-filled things God has planned for us. 

            When we wake up to the drip-drip of a relationship that’s not all it should be, when we step into the chill of a lost job, when we walk beneath a gray sky and it seems the sun will never break through ... that’s the time gather together with those we love, draw close to the fire, and toast a marshmallow.

            June gloom doesn’t have to stop you. You just have to bundle up in God’s grace and drive up to mountains anyway. And maybe tomorrow the sun will come out and the fog will be only a memory.